Now that I am back to work, I have time to reflect…well, marvel, really. You see, adoption has been on my heart and mind for a very long time…35 years to be exact. For all that time I have made excuses (good ones) as to why I could not adopt a child. But then came May of 2016, and I was walloped with an undeniable prophecy. I was left with no choice but to pay attention, it was that obvious and intrusive…I had to go for it, if you will, and I did. I researched agencies and programs, I studied country policies and cultures, and I ultimately landed on India. I am still in awe of how it all worked out, my son so perfectly fits with me, he’s definitely my child. There are days it feels as though we have been together all along, yet, it’s only been 3 months! But now, as I look back upon the last 35 years of trying to evade the inevitable, I realize that I could have very easily missed this. I could have kept making excuses. I could have aged out of the process. I could have chosen a different path. I could have missed uniting my son with his forever family. The depth and magnitude of this realization is not lost on me. In fact, it causes me to pause each morning, and most evenings, and ask myself what I can be doing with my life.
All of us, faith or no faith, are presented with opportunities each and every day. Be it as rigorous as adopting a child, or as simple as smiling at someone who appears to be having a bad day. We are presented with choices that change the direction of life, ours or someone else’s. There’s no way around it, our world is plumb full of need. In fact, if you don’t see it you’re simply not looking—or avoiding the truth - either way they both bring unfortunate results.
I know for me, discovering that I could have missed being united with my son causes me to consider what else I’m missing. What amazing things are happening without me? What do I want my legacy to be? Am I avoiding something that would actually bring great joy and prosperity to my life? Am I making excuses because I’m trying to maintain an image? Is my ego in the way of my well-being…or worse, the well-bring of the world? These are important questions to ask yourself on a regular basis.
As a shared inhabitant, our lives evolve around a cause-and-effect reality. And a fair majority of the time, we get to choose what the effect will be. I’ve learned an important lesson that if I don’t want to miss out on something good, I must step in and take part. Our nation, let alone the world, has experienced great devastation as of late. In Old Testament day, many prophets warned the people of catastrophe, and as history shows, what we experience today is nothing new. However, beautifully intertwined with both biblical prophecies and historical events, is the foreshadowing of something good yet to come. Amongst crumbled homes and broken lives, there is opportunity upon opportunity to be part of the healing; to bring about hope, and effect change in a struggling world. It’s our choice, we can miss out on extraordinary things, or we can jump in with both feet and watch our lives transform.